Couples want to adopt a child because of many reasons. Maybe they can’t conceive their own child and want one. Maybe they feel like it’s their moral obligation to help a child in need of a family. Maybe they have extra emotional and financial space for another human being in their life. Whatever the case may be, adoption can be a life-changing experience.
But adoption is much more complicated than you think, so you need to ask yourself several questions before pursuing it, such as the following.
Why do I want to adopt?
What drives your desire to adopt a child? Most of the time, the reason is companionship, like wanting to be a parent or mentor-figure to another human being. But is that the case for you too? It is important to know the reason behind your desire, to know if the desire is just a one-night craving that can disappear suddenly or is deep and true that will never fade.
Am I ready for the responsibility?
The desire to adopt a child should be deep and true because it is a commitment. You are going to be responsible for another human being, in terms of food, shelter, education, health, and other basic needs. If your desire to adopt is not genuine, you may think that this responsibility is a negative sacrifice or a mere burden. You will have another person’s life in your hands, so it is not something to be taken lightly.
Do I have the financial capability to commit?
This responsibility is, of course, not free. You should have adequate resources to be able to provide not just for yourself, but also for your adopted child. If you can’t even provide for yourself, what is the sense of adopting another human being to join you in your financial difficulty? You should be financially ready for the responsibility of providing the basic needs of your adopted child – and yourself.
Am I read for the legal process?
According to the website of Higdon, Hardy & Zuflacht, adoption is a heavily regulated industry, and for good reason. We are talking about the life of another person, and passing the responsibility of this life to an emotionally and financially stable provider. The process is so complicated that it can take months or even years, especially for international adoptions, so you really need to want it to get through it.
Am I emotionally ready?
Aside from your ability to provide, your emotional state should also be considered. Are you really ready to have another person in your life? Do you have a space in your heart to love another human being? The emotional state of a person may seem simple to understand, but it is not. This is especially true if the reason behind the adoption is infertility, because a person may still have strong feelings about it and therefore not emotionally ready for adoption.